I was sitting here at this late hour with thousands of thoughts racing through my head about this 'homeschool' thing... Most of them weren't all that good at first. (It has been a long day.) But then I had one of those epiphanies that you can only have late at night when you started drinking coffee around 10pm and you've eaten way too many roasted peanuts for your own good and you're souped up on decongestants and fever reducers. It went like this:
Bah! I think everything would just be a little easier to handle if I wasn't feeling so bad. I mean, half of it is just that I'm so sick. Besides, none of the kids are feeling all that well either. Yvonne is sniffly and mean. George is prone to sudden tears as he usually is when he's feeling under-the-weather but doesn't want to tell anyone.. And William looks more pale than usual. So, I can't really blame them for not wanting to sit through math drills and grammar lessons right now. We'll just have to tough it out. That's right.. er.. Wait. Why is that right? Tell me again why we're toughing anything out? Why on earth am I sticking to a schedule? Uh oh.. It's been 72 hours and I've already forgotten most of the advantages of homeschooling. Don't we make our own rules here?
I'm going to blame it on my cold medicine. When I'm feeling fuzzy in the head I tend to resort to lists and schedules to get me through -- and that's exactly what I was doing here.
Today was tough. I woke up early enough and had everything neat and tidy and ready to go, but was met with a bit of resistance when I announced it was time to have the first lesson. My fragile and influenza-burdened ego just couldn't take that kind of rejection and I threw a little temper tantrum of my own and said I didn't think I was up to teaching anybody. The boys looked bewildered but they were quiet. I stormed out of the room and wandered around aimlessly for a few minutes, but when I returned to the kitchen I found the boys there still waiting. George was busily writing - so I peeked over his shoulder to see the words "I will not upset Mom" neatly scrawled on the paper 10 times. Eep! I kissed them both on the heads and hugged them 'hello'. And then I apologized. I explained to George that I think I am prone to sudden tears when I feel under-the-weather, too... And we went on with a decent discussion about how to tell when a story is taking place when the author keeps changing the tense of the verbs... and the difference between 'knowing' and 'understanding'. (From
Wondering at the World)
We took a long break before I called them back for some math -- but, once again, neither of them were all that pleased with the idea of actually doing anything. I didn't storm out of the room. I slapped a deck of cards on the table and said "Okay - give me a chance here.. I am going to show you how you can practice your addition facts by playing a card game...." That perked them up. At first. Or at least until one of them started winning and the other ... well.. wasn't. It happened to be William who ended up on the losing end of the card game -- but I know full-well that had it been George he would have reacted in exactly the same way. William slumped and refused to play again. So I - in full drill-sargeant mode - handed him a sheet of 100 addition facts and a pencil and sent him off. I was a little surprised when he returned with the sheet neatly done and no complaints. My foggy head couldn't figure out why on earth he would seem to prefer doing traditional math drills to playing such a gloriously fun game. But I didn't get to dwell for whatever reason -- I think a baby cried or a buzzer went off or the phone rang.. I can't remember exactly -- but by then it was that time of day for me that always most resembles a Calgon commercial... minus the luxurious soak in the spa.
I was feeling sort of proud of myself for having the good sense to not load up our schedule with a lot of really intense work since we had done so much during the previous two days... and I waited a couple of hours before I asked the boys if they thought they would be able to label the world map with the names of the seven continents. They both replied that they could do it if they knew how to really spell them. "Well.. Haven't you been studying?" They both quite honestly said "No." And that was it. Not "No, but we will..." Just "No." So I put on the cheeriest voice that I can when I'm tired and congested and said "Oh! Well.. Okay! How about I help you learn to spell them?" That was followed by a couple of very audible groans.
I didn't storm out of the room again. I was proud of that too. But I wasn't very nice either. I found myself barking at them to sit down and get out a pencil because we were going to learn how to spell the names of the continents whether they liked it or not.
It wasn't the most pleasant experience. I don't think it was for any of us, that is... But they may have actually learned how to spell the names of the seven continents. If they haven't - it would serve me right. (I realize that now. At the time - I was still barking and so adamant... As if our very lives depended on the boys learning how to spell Antarctica TODAY.)
Thinking I was being most good and kind... I let another hour pass before I asked them to join me for a quick grammar lesson. I shouldn't have been surprised that they didn't want to join me for a quick grammar lesson -- but I was anyway. Their work ended up done neatly before they trudged off toward their rooms looking full of gloom and despair.
But it still didn't hit me. I sat down with my planner and reviewed our lessons for the day.. Math drills - check; Geography - check; Writing component - check; Reading component - check; Discussion - check.... Suddenly, I felt rather bored.
I jumped up and remembered that Dave had mentioned that he saw a sign about a booksale at the public library between 9 and 5 today. That's what we'd do! I would grab the boys and we'd go have a happy old time at the book sale!
"Put on your shoes!" I called to the boys.
"Why?" they called back.
"Don't ask why -- hurry up and come with me!"
"But why?"
"Because we're going somewhere."
"Where are we going?"
"We aren't going anywhere if you don't put your shoes on."
"But I don't want to put my shoes on!" shouted George.
William was heading for the door so I shouted back "Okay, fine - you don't have to come then."
And I made my way out to the stupid van. William was in the back seat already when George came running out - still shoeless - to ask again 'But where are you going?' I was quite frustrated by then as it was 4:30 and I knew it would take about 10 minutes to get to the book sale that ended at 5:00. "George.. put your shoes on in the car and come with me."
Ten minutes later we passed the public library and the big sign outside that read "Friends of the Library Book Sale 9am to 2pm." Ahem. I said absolutely nothing to the boys about where I had originally intended to take us.. But I was determined that we would go
somewhere by then.. So I headed for the mall and the bookstore in Gautier. William found his dream book about World War II fighter planes and was immediately in a state of bliss. George had a harder time finding anything that interested him... but then he stumbled across this coffee-table sized illustrated book about the universe. He was so excited... and the whole day flashed through my mind as I turned over the book to find the price: Fifty dollars. I told him 'no'. He was crushed. Crushed! He finally decided on a couple pocket encylopedias -- one on space and the other about insects... but his heart wasn't in it. That's when I decided I would make everything right by taking them to the music shop to find a CD for them... I was hoping they'd have Holst's
The Planets because George has always been very excited about it. Of course, they didn't. So we browsed the classical section together. George found a Bach CD and asked if we could get it.. In the meantime, I had selected Mozart. "Well, George.. I know you like Bach.. and soon we will study Bach.. But don't you think since we are studying Mozart right now it would be better to get Mozart?" He agreed. He looked sad though. I guessed he must have still been upset about that universe book....
We didn't attempt any more lessons today. It was already too much.. and I was sincerely wanting the boys to have a good day in the end. I thought they might like to have some fun drawing and coloring with me though after Yvonne and Emily were in bed -- so I got out the supplies while I waited.
In the process of going upstairs to gather the boys for me - Dave discovered that neither of them had actually finished their daily chores -- picking up their toys, making their beds, cleaning off their desks -- and mentioned it to me as they entered the room. What a bad idea. Don't tell me that. You know - me - big grumpy sniffly drill-sargeant mom... Don't tell me that!! I did what any big grumpy sniffly drill-sargeant mom would do: I told them they had to clean their rooms before we could do anything. They immediately burst into tears. Two hours later we all calmed down. Their rooms were never cleaned... and we never got to color either.
So that's what brought me here... Sitting in front of the computer late at night -- wondering where I went wrong... and then the epiphany...
Yes -- I'm grumpy -- but that's not the big problem. The problem is that I lost sight of our goals already. I spent the day trying to force things. Learning to spell the names of the continents became as artificially important as that stupid daily planner from the school... George wanted a book about the universe so I bought him something else. William was obviously upset about losing the game - but rather than taking the opportunity to reassure him and maybe join in the game with them or change the rules to balance out their different levels of math proficiency - I
punished him with math drills. Egad! George wanted Bach so I bought him Mozart. And then I wandered around wondering why I was meeting so much resistance.
At least I have tomorrow's lesson plan figured out already. It's gonna go like this:
Wake up whenever we feel like it. Make waffles with extra syrup. Listen to the stupid Mozart CD while eating waffles. Ask the boys what they want to do today. Listen to them.
From there -- I think I'll just wing it.